The Judgement Agenda
When you judge you project your shadows onto others,
when you love you project your light.
Being judgemental isn’t the same as having an opinion. Judgement is a harsh energy and is shaming. When you judge someone you are condemning them for perceived wrongness, flaws, mistakes or negativity.
Judgements separate you from truth and love. They can be hurtful both to who you are judging and to yourself. Outer judgements can be a way you project and discharge hidden self-judgement, insecurities, guilt, self-loathing and shame onto another, which may not be conscious and can be repressed and disowned. This can be most obvious with someone unknown who is a blank slate for projection.
What anyone decides about someone they don’t know
can reveal what their shadows are hiding from show.
The less judging anyone is of themselves, the less they will be of anyone else. Don’t judge yourself for being judgemental. You can recognize, acknowledge, feel the feelings around judgement for release, forgive yourself/another, and let go of judgement. (Forgiveness can be a process that involves feeling and healing. Allow yourself that process).
Judgement lowers your energy and keeps you in some way attached to those judgements, keeping them alive in my consciousness. What you judge clings to you. What you forgive you can let go of can release. Self-love helps you become non-stick to the judgements of others.
Being non-judgemental isn’t about turning a blind eye or ignoring something, or your feelings, or not having an opinion, preferences, principles, boundaries, and so on. You can witness and learn from what you are witnessing, take responsibility for your reality, and attend to what’s going on within. If someone presses on a button, address the button that is being pressed on, which exists irrespective of anything pressing on it, and is why you have attracted something pressing on it.
Present judgements can reflect unresolved past judgements or grievances towards yourself or another rearing their head through the present trigger. If you are secretly judging yourself, or a parent, or someone from your past, for doing or not doing, being or not being (you name it), you may judge that when you encounter it in another.
Reflecting on the possible hidden agendas and pay-offs around judgement can also shed light. Judgement can be used as an attempt to oppress, or to feel ‘better than’ and avoid feeling ‘less than’ through the diminishment of another via judgement. Other agendas that can foster judgement include competition, jealousy, arrogance and control.
You can learn from your judgements about what’s going on inside. It is interesting how people have differences with what they tend to judge. Is there something that particularly bugs you that you tend to most judge? What and why is that? Have you ever experienced those qualities in yourself, either now or in the past, thought or acted out, towards yourself or another?
Let go of self-judgement, feel any of the feelings around that judgement to free them if that helps, and accept, forgive and be loving and compassionate with yourself. Your compassion is not only a gift to yourself, it is a gift to the world.
The more compassionate anyone is with themselves,
the more compassionate they’ll be with anyone else.
You are human and you will make mistakes, which are an integral part of the human experience and can bring with it valuable gifts of learning. Don’t fall into the trap of judging yourself for those mistakes, or taking on the judgements of others (the former obviously helping with the latter).
Judgement compounds what is judged and keeps you captive to those traits. Love, acceptance, compassion, understanding and forgiveness, conversely, help you let go of and not be snared by judgement, and whatever doesn’t serve you, be those beliefs, thoughts, feelings, experiences, people, situations, and so on. You can be mindful, process your feelings, and make choices.
Self and other forgiveness can also help as a way through with letting go of judgements against others or yourself and returning to the truth of love and your inherent unconditional loveability.